I almost lost my mind once. It was the best thing that ever happened to me.
I almost lost my mind because I wasn’t taking care of it. Way too much crunch time for an important project, coupled with some ongoing issues in my personal life, pushed my ability to cope with day-to-day life into the red.
My heart raced. My mind raced. My ability to think clearly—so important when you’re trying to get working software out the door—went through the floor.
I was super, super stressed.
It affected everything, including how I felt, my relationships, my sleep and appetite, and especially my ability to do my job. It wasn’t a good place — I was on the edge of somewhere nasty. Burnout.
It was the best thing that ever happened to me because, while navigating my way back from the edge, I learned a whole heap about how humans work.
In particular I learned about our mental and physical limits, the nature of stress and anxiety, and most importantly, how to take care of myself so that I could stop this happening again. I want to share some of that with you here.
It’s valuable information, and it applies to everyone. Programming often scores well in terms of job satisfaction, but programmers are, despite their protestations to the contrary, humans and are subject to the same limitations as anyone else.
How stress works
Programming culture emphasises excellence and ability. This can make it difficult to admit to ourselves or others that we might be having an issue with stress.
However, it’s literally baked into our neural and physical circuitry, so everybody has to deal with it at some point.
Stress in the mind and body
Stress is a series of physiological and mental changes that happen when our body and mind perceive a threat or challenge in our environment.
Stress and relaxation are defined by the level of physiological arousal and muscular tension in the body.
To be relaxed is to have the optimal level of physiological arousal and muscle tension for your current situation.
To be stressed or anxious is to have too much physiological arousal and muscle tension for your current situation.
The stress response—also known as fight or flight—kicks in when we process information that indicates we’re under threat or facing a challenge. The physical symptoms of arousal can include:
- muscle tension
- increased heart rate and blood pressure
- shallow breathing (into the chest rather than the belly)
- a sense of mental busyness
- narrow attentional focus
- emotional reactivity (you lose your shit with everyone)
Evolutionary theory offers a neat way of explaining anything that humans experience in terms of survival.
The stress response can be viewed as a means of keeping us alive by preparing us to meet a challenge.
All of the physical responses associated with stress serve a purpose. For example, we tense up in preparation for explosive movement—very useful if we’re about to escape from a bear that we’ve encountered on a forest path.
Not always so useful if we’re hunched over a desk running some unit tests…
Or our digestion shuts down so that the energy it uses might be redirected to making our escape, which explains the nausea.
The same thing happens with our immune response. Energy is conserved by shutting it down temporarily, at the expense of reduced immunity. This is why you often get sick at times of increased stress, and why excessive stress is associated with long-term, chronic illnesses.
Stress and the nervous system
Stress is a pretty low-level response in humans. It’s mediated by the sympathetic branch of the autonomic nervous system. Think of this as some pretty deeply embedded hardware – we’re talking at the level of BIOS here.
The autonomic nervous system is responsible for a whole heap of automatic behaviour in humans—stuff you don’t have to think about, you just do.
There’s a parasympathetic branch too, which has pretty much the opposite effect when it’s activated. Which is great news, as we’ll see later.
You can think of these as like the accelerator and brake in a car. You need both to get to where you’re going, but too much of them and you’re either not going anywhere, or driving straight off the road.
Perception of threat
An interesting thing about the stress response is that it doesn’t require the existence of a real, physical threat. Simply remembering a stressful situation can trigger the physical and mental responses. Go ahead, try it!
The threat response can be activated whenever a challenge or threat is perceived. This is why an email or conversation with your boss can be stressful, even though you are not in immediate physical danger.
Good and bad stress
A little bit of everything is good, in moderation. Red wine, project management processes, and even stress.
Stress is actually a pretty useful response in a challenging or threatening situation. One of the many reasons that we’ve thrived as a species is our ability to evade threats and rise to challenges.
We need a little bit of stress response in order to get things done. Call this good stress.
For example, as I’m writing this article, I’m experiencing some low-level parasympathetic activation. My foot is ticking as adrenaline is released, and my mind feels sharpened as I concentrate on the process of writing.
This is optimal for the situation of trying to create an article. And, crucially, when I’m finished, my mind and body will return to a less aroused, less tense state, because I know how to relax them both.
The stress response is a crucial part of meeting the challenges we face.
Stressful events can even cause a strengthening effect.
Many of the things that are “good for us” cause a stress response in the body (think heavy exercise in particular).
The difference between good stress and bad stress is the chance to return to equilibrium (homeostasis), which has beneficial effects in itself.
We’ve all been buzzed with the adrenaline of getting through a coding session many times in our career. For some of us, it’s addictive.
Low-level stress provides fuel for getting things done. Many of us learn to embrace and even enjoy it.
The problems come when our stress response is activated excessively or continuously, without the chance to return to equilibrium.
Every programmer has been on a death march at some point. Think about how you feel after a few weeks in crunch mode. You’re probably tired, maybe getting sick, your concentration is waning, and you just generally don’t feel good.
Your focus deteriorates, which is no good for your productivity.
It turns out that continuously flooding your system with stress hormones, diminishing your digestive system and immune response, and being consumed by excessive thinking is not only uncomfortable, but also pretty bad for you in the long term.
It’s this type of stress I’ll talk about for the rest of the article, because it’s the most common.
Programmers and stress
All careers have their sources of stress. Sometimes stress is caused by a particular job situation—for example, poor management or team relations.
Sometimes, there are inherent sources of stress caused by the nature of the career itself.
As programmers, we need to consider a number of factors when examining our relationship to stress.
We live in our heads
Most of us turned to a career in programming because we like thinking about things and solving problems. We live in our heads a lot of the time, and are happy that way.
This means that we can become a bit disconnected from our bodies. Because we’re not always paying attention, it’s easy to ignore some of the physical symptoms of stress. If we don’t notice the problem, we can’t go about solving it.
Part of healthy stress management is noticing when we’re experiencing excessive stress, so we can take appropriate action.
Extrinsic sources of stress are found in the working culture we operate in. Stress and busyness can be seen as a badge of honour, a sign of a productive employee, or just part of the job.
Because we’re all amazing super-human code machines (hint: we’re not!), there’s often an expectation that we’ll keep delivering to a super-high standard sprint after sprint, project after project, with no time to rest or repair.
Intrinsic sources of stress come from within ourselves. Programming culture values intellect, which causes us to compare ourselves to others, which leads to impostor syndrome or feeling guilty, both sources of stress in their own right.
Diet and exercise
“A programmer is a mechanism for turning caffeine into code,” so goes the old saying. I’d add sugar to that list too! Stimulants like caffeine actually amplify the stress response. Again, this is fine in moderation, but not great long-term.
Sitting at a desk all day isn’t exactly conducive to physical fitness. The tension that is part of the stress response can accumulate in the body, leading to huge buildups of stress over time.
Diet and exercise are both definitely part of the equation when it comes to programming and stress. Consider getting more active or taking it easy on the caffeine and sugary snacks for a while.
Stress management strategies
So what’s a busy programmer to do? Stress exists, it’s going to get excessive sometimes, and, in the long term, it’s not good for you if you don’t work on your relationship to it.
If you knew this about a system you’d developed and maintained, you’d take action, right? (RIGHT???)
Thankfully, stress has been thoroughly researched. There are a number of strategies that you can consider when trying to manage stress in your life.
They fall into three categories:
- Address the source
- Undo the damage
- Reduce your baseline
Address the source
Sometimes it’s necessary and sensible to work on removing the sources of excessive stress in your life. Think about what causes you the most stress, and work to do something about it.
With low level, acute stress, it’s possible to mentally reframe it. Is that actually stress you are feeling about an upcoming demo? Could you possibly interpret those sensations as excitement instead? Sometimes this little mental shift is all that it takes to feel differently about the stressful situation.
But for ongoing stresses, it might be time to start making changes. As a grown adult human, you have more power than you know, so start using it!
Start a conversation with your boss about the effect all the overtime is having on your output. Drop that troublesome client. Think about changing jobs if necessary. Ask your family for more support with personal administration if you can.
Consider removing yourself from any toxic relationships in your life. If you’re pressed for time, consider whether you really need all of those side projects.
In short, find some time to rest and work on applying the brakes of the nervous system for a bit.
Often there are internal sources we can work on too. What are your beliefs about being busy? Do you see it as important? Is it part of your self-worth?
Do you push yourself extra hard, even though it probably wouldn’t matter if you worked ten percent less? Do you see rest as a sign of weakness?
What about your outlook? Do you tend to catastrophise? Do you look on every situation with negativity or positivity? How is that voice in your head when you listen to it? Upbeat or gloomy?
How about your diet? Your physical exercise routine?
A quick audit of the internal and external sources of stress in your life will provide you with a list of actions you can take to remove them, if possible. It will really help to talk this over with a friend or colleague. It’s sometimes hard to take a clear perspective when you’re in the middle of a stressful patch.
Undo the damage
Of course, it’s not possible to remove all of the sources of stress in life. If you’ve found a way, untold riches await, so congratulations! And please let me know your secret.
You can certainly try to undo the damage though. And exercise is an extremely effective way to do this. Exercise release endorphins, which not only feel good, but also act to reduce the negative effects of released stress hormones.
Exercise regimes are extremely personal;it can take a while to find one that works for you. My preferred stress buster is yoga—it combines physical demands with deep breathing, which, as we’ll soon see, is a great way to initiate relaxation. But anything that involves moderate to strong physical exercise will do.
Pro-active stress management
We all have a baseline stress level that fluctuates during our lifetime. By taking a pro-active approach, it’s possible to reduce this baseline.
Making stress reduction a focus of your life is a worthy goal. The less affected you are by excessive stress, the more effective you’ll be.
Embrace conscious relaxation exercises, such as the one below. Or learn mindfulness skills, which numerous studies have shown reduce the effects of stress.
A quick relaxation exercise
Here’s a quick exercise that helps most people relax.
It works on the simple principle that it’s possible to activate the parasympathetic branch of your nervous system—the part responsible for the relaxation response. You start to slow and deepen your breathing.
Slow, deep breathing is associated with the parasympathetic response, so when you take control of this aspect of the relaxation response, it tricks your body into activating the rest.
Find a place where you can sit quietly for a few minutes. Your desk will do, but if you can find somewhere you can be alone and undisturbed, that’s even better.
Most of us are shallow, fast breathers, which is associated with the stress response. For this exercise, place your hand on your belly. We’ll focus on breathing deeply.
Close your eyes, take a note of how you feel, and slowly take a breath in. Breathe in such a way that you feel your belly rise before your chest expands. Put your hand on your belly so you can feel it move.
Make the breath as long and slow as you can—perhaps it might start out slightly faster, and then slow down. As you exhale, let your belly contract before your chest.
Repeat this for a couple of minutes, generally for around ten to fifteen breaths. Notice any change in your state of mind or body?
How well did this work for you?
Do you pass the stress test?
Everyone has different needs when it comes to learning how to manage stress in their life. How resilient you are in the face of stress is determined by a complex set of biological and environmental factors. Your relationship with stress can, and does, change over your lifetime.
Many people find that learning more about their relationship with stress is very rewarding. Chronic stress is a state of misdirected energy, which causes many aspects of your life to suffer.
There is a delicate balance between optimal performance and stress. Too little or too much stress kicks us “out of the zone”.
Taking control of excess stress has numerous benefits, whether they be purely physical, such as improved immune function, blood pressure, and so on; or mental, such as clearer thinking, improved focus, and increased likelihood of finding flow states.
As a programmer, with a mentally demanding job, it’s natural to look for ways to improve the quality of your thinking, and stress management is a direct route.
A stressed person is emotionally reactive, which often affects communication and decision-making. Learning to manage excessive stress naturally leads to emotional balance, which has a knock-on effect in all of your relationships: relaxed people are easier to be around.
Programmer burnout is a real phenomenon, and often job stress is a big factor. I’ve personally experienced it twice (which is how I came to learn so much about stress!).
In all engineering projects, preventative measures are cheaper and more effective long term. So if you feel you’re on the way to burnout, why not apply this approach to stress management in your life?
So how does stress play out in your life? Just enough? Too much? What could you do today to start reducing the burden?
(This article originally appeared on SimpleProgrammer.com)